Why is it, that women fear to raise her voice?

We are triggered with an emotional response to what we feel is WRONG, and it cuts far too deep for us to stay silent.

it is sadly apparent that too many women are still sitting on the sidelines observing others move issues forward or debate future actions. In one meeting, even women in positions of some power were less likely to speak up to contradict ideas that their faces gave every indication that they felt were wrongheaded. But if you get those women together outside of a mixed gender group, the energy and dynamics would likely be dramatically different as some would feel their confidence grow

It is disheartening to recognize that there are so many women with an inner light that shines brightly, but when given praise or their successes are noted, they turn their eyes to the floor and shake their heads in dissent. Modesty may keep some women from speaking up and speaking out, which contributes to the continuation of a culture in which women’s silence is accepted and, regrettably, still expected in some places.

It seems some women refuse to speak up for or against an issue, be it right or wrong in their own perspectives. She may deal with drama or conflict by averting her gaze; it’s as if she goes beyond mere embodiment of the phrase, “see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil,” to go as far as not to see, hear, or speak at all. Something keeps these women back from staking a metaphorical claim — which reflects poorly on their wisdom, their experience, and their value within a group.

Are there masks that you wear when in the company of colleagues? friends? family? Do you feel the need to take on a unique identity with specific groups of people? When a woman is preoccupied with showing the world what she believes they want to see, it begins to obscure her own self-perceptions.

Anyone who has ever browsed the parallel universe of the Internet has borne witness to the tidal wave of negativity, the volcano of viciousness exploding over every form of social media.

While there are many settings where women have found their voices, there are still spaces in which silence is easier than dissent. It is beyond disappointing that there are still spaces in which men can show up “just as they are” and be confident that their words will find airspace, but women present may feel that they must put on armor to vie for equal time to share their own ideas. Speaking up and speaking out are skills that might require some practice before they become familiar. Encourage, make space, and invite the voices of all. Recognizing the value of one’s time, energy, experience, acumen, and heart is not as easy for some as it is for others. It can feel risky to speak up in a group, but if you would be willing to put up your hand to volunteer for an assignment, be willing to lift up your voice — its value is certainly equal to that of your hands, and likely even more valuable.

The Internet is teeming with the vilest human characteristic of all: hatred. Bearing the brunt of these brutal virtual beatings are mainly girls.

Girls who sport opinions. Girls who carry independent thoughts. Girls with a bold sense of humor. Girls who dare to create. Girls who attain the most precious freedom of all: freedom of the mind.

We arrived on earth with functioning brains, effervescent ideas and working vocal chords – so what’s the point in holding our perspective hostage within the cell of ourselves?

Isn’t the meaning of our existence defined by the positive difference we’re able to make in the world? How can we make any sort of impact if we don’t speak up against what we feel is fundamentally wrong or right?

We are attempting to search for the reason that society has such a relentless hatred directed toward girls with opinions. What are the reasons for this crushing avalanche of hatred?

It’s not just from men; some of the most severe perpetrators of this epidemic are other women.

What is the massive, pressing threat of a female with her own mind?

What makes people think just because we obtain the confidence to vocalize our thoughts and ideas, we must be draped in an invisible cloak of bitter cold emptiness?

While I do believe in the weight of my voice, I don’t consider my self-expressiveness to be linked with an impenetrable self-assuredness.

We are multidimensional, fully realized human being just like everyone else residing on the planet. We sport both insecurities and confidence, and they run side by side. One is not exclusive of the other.

It’s not just from men; some of the most severe perpetrators of this epidemic are other women.

Our difference in opinion might cause disruption, create conflict or activate heated discussion. But isn’t it the diversity in our definition of justice what makes the world so provocative and interesting?

Women and girls are stuck in the age-old, self-destructive habit of perpetual self-deprecation, endlessly apologizing for their triumphs and coming up with sorry excuses for their achievements.

Maybe a lifetime of seeing other women get called “egotistical” or a “bitch” for simply owning their strengths has subconsciously made women shy away from owning the fierceness in their voice?

But now it is the time that we rise and speak that we aren’t going to hide behind the window dressing of false modesty in order to make us less threatening or more attractive to the outer world because an opinionated girl can’t be controlled by words, as cruel, cunning, beautiful and prolific as words have the ability to be.

by Israt Yasmin, The Blogging Connection


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